Welcome my dear reader into this awesome site where we will be interacting on matters marriage. We hope that we will grow together.
Lets first start by understanding what marriage is all about from God’s perspective. We know that God created everything seen and unseen just by word,but when it came to man in Gen 1:26″God said let us make man in our own image after our likeness…”Here he created the man,blessed and gave them dominion over the garden of Eden. God himself ordained the institution of marriage,he is the author of marriage and that is why he lays down some principles to guide it to its fullness and success .Without man and woman going back to the author and reading through the manuscript he has given out(the bible which is the living word of God)then attaining fulfillment will not be easy.
Let’s look at simple definition of the marriage ;it is a covenant relationship between a man and woman on a public vow of lifetime faithfulness. How can we set up an institution of marriage In this error of high rate of divorce cases,broken relationship,separation are the order of the day?.One thing I know for sure is that no one enters into marriage with the idea of quitting on way ,everyone entering into this covenant of marriage has a picture and expectations of successful marriage. Though some marriage do make it ,many don’t. Why do they fail on the way ? This we shall cover as topic on it’s own .The ones that make it through doesn’t mean they are perfect; no it only means that they have set down ways and means of solving there issue and above all the know how to communicate when issue arise. To achieve this a couple must have understood God instruction on having a successful marriage. He says in Gen 2:24″therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh “.The one who understands this principle becomes so easy to raise a family that stands even when the storm hits because the foundation is strong .’leave’ therefore will mean to go out from ,go away from,leave behind ,letting go and ‘cleaving’,becoming emotionally attached to,glued to,fixed to your wife .This doesn’t mean that one totally cuts off all ties with parents ,but rather leaving your parents mean recognizing that your marriage created a new family and that this new family has to be of higher priority than your previous family. This means that it’s the responsibility of the two to make sure they set boundaries on the far their parents can get into their marriage. Many have failed in this since they feel uncomfortable to speak this out with their parents and even the siblings,and so in doing thus unhealthy situation and expectations go unsolved thus hurting our spouse without intention to do so to some extent leading to broken marriages .Refusing to leave the family ones comes from brings struggle because one is largely influenced to some extent manipulated by their parents on how to invest and where rather than cleaving to the spouse to establish strong new families of their own where they are the authors of how they will raise their children .Marriage is so dear to God and that is why he desires it to- be kept holy by both parents. Next we are going to continue looking on the basics of establishing successful marriages .I would love to hear from you please leave your comment I will get back to you
Written by Helen W Kinyua.