(A) Communicate to one another not just talking.
Show keen interest in listening to what your spouse is saying.
Give full attention to your spouse. Put aside any interruptions and gadgets that will interfere with your attention to your spouse (talking to you)
(B) Talk less and listen more. Your spouse will be encouraged to know that you don’t interrupt him/her as he/she talks to you.
This good habit deposit some sense of respect and honour for your spouse. This is a learned skill. Take time to listen to your spouse talking to you.
(C) Be truthful to one another. Don’t manipulate each other. Avoid making false statement because this will be registered in the mind of your spouse.
Don’t lie to your spouse at whatever level. Marriage can never be built on lies.
However painful it could be, speak the truth and nothing but the truth. Even when you are making fun with your spouse avoid speaking lies.
(D) Show love and be considerate of each other’s opinion.
We should admit that each and every spouse is wise in something more than the other spouse.
Appreciate this fact and learn to consider each other’s opinion. This habit can save you unnecessary pain or wastage.
(E) Tame your anger in your communication.
Save your tongue from releasing irritating statements. Don’t provoke anger from your spouse.
Consider training your tongue to avoid throwing statements that trigger anger and wrath.
(F) Communicate with each other with words full of grace and mercy.
Avoid releasing vulgar words, abusive words, insults and horrifying words, instead be gracious to your spouse.
Respect, submit and communicate lovingly.
(G) Communicate with your spouse in a friendly way, understanding that you are actually supposed to be great friends.
Your spouse should be your closest friend. Sympathize with your spouse even he/she has done wrong.
Consider her or him as a close friend you will always need.
(H) Hold the hands of your spouse and pray for each other. Speak victory and strength in those areas of his/her weakness.
If your spouse is not born again, pray for him to receive salvation. The best is in God.